Christenings & Naming Ceremonies - Gifts, Etiquette

Although different regions and all cultures have their own versions, naming ceremonies have a constant theme which is part of our shared ancestry : parents, relatives and friends gather together to welcome the new child, celebrate its arrival and wish it the best for the future.

 

Christian Religious Ceremonies:

These represent the child’s initiation into the religious faith. Whether this is to be a Catholic, CofE or other ceremony, the first step is to speak to your local vicar, priest or pastor. They will be able to explain the service, and any duties that must be carried out by parents/godparents before and during the ceremony.

 

Secular (non-religious) Ceremonies:

These can be held in any different locations and take many forms, and the British Humanist Association can provide help if needed. They have a network of trained and licensed celebrants who can help create a ceremony that includes whatever personal touches you want - examples include readings of poetry or extracts from books, music or speeches from family and friends.

 

After the Ceremony

It is generally customary to hold a tea, luncheon or buffet so that the child can be shown to all the relatives and friends who have attended. Gifts can also be presented to the child. Some people choose to have a 'buffet cake' which can be divided amongst those present; sometimes a tree or plant will be planted or dedicated to the child to symbolise new life.

 

Godparents / Mentors:

Whether a Christian Godparent or a secular Mentor, this should be regarded as a great honour, carrying with it serious responsibility. Although nowadays it must be written into the parents' wills (with the Godparent(s) knowledge and consent), the tradition is that - should the parents die - the child will then be brought up by the Godparent. Godparents / Mentors are carefully selected and trusted people who the parents feel can offer guidance to the child, and in the case of the Christian religion, help to bring it up as a Christian.
 

Suitable Christening Gifts

Traditional ideas include pottery items or silver gifts.  A cross, chain or a bible is often presented to the child in Christian ceremonies. 

Personalised gifts are usually received very well : framed photos or photo albums, keepsake boxes, plates, mugs/tankards can all be engraved or otherwise made unique to the child.